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A hassle-free movement to blogspot
June 25th, 2008 by OsmanI am freezing this blog and moving over to blogspot: moodr.blogspot.com. I am not going to transfer posts and comments from here to there.
The reason is blogspot is becoming much more easy to use day by day in comparison to a self-hosted wordpress blog.
Hope to see you there.
Means of personal change
May 23rd, 2008 by OsmanLatest note to the personal change group.
when we talk about change, there are different connotations of that word for different people. therefore, before we go on, I find it important to spend time on the notion of change. imagine a person who wants to lose weight.
for this person to change, we can make diet plan based on calories. but most of the time, this doesn’t work. the simple reason to this is that the person cannot use the plan. a more complicated reason would be that although she/he uses the plan, the plan doesn’t work. in that case it would be beneficial for her/him to work with a doctor who is experienced on such cases.
in this example, one can handle the calory calculation by herself/himself. we have internet, we have sites out there telling which food have what calorie, etc. one can do this plan without the help of anybody.
but what if one prepares a plan and could not use it for some reason. what would be the solution? one option may be to give up on losing weight but we don’t want that. so, we can now talk about the necessity of change.
thus, i can also briefly explain why i like to use the term personal change instead of personal development.
in the above example, being not able to lose weight is no longer a physical issue. it is nnot possible to use a calorie plan to lose weight. on one hand, one wants to lose weight but because of several relevant or seemeingly irrelevant reasons, on cannot achieve her/his goal.
in that case, i suggest to choose a method for personal change and work on it. I don’t want to put a limit on this options. I will not mention many methods here. this is not because I don’t like those methods or don’t appreciate them. It’s just that I don’t have experience on them.
so in that fashion, what we have today for change is things like psychotherapy, life coaching in which a professional person will hold a mirror to you. there are also other things that may help on the way. they are the knowledge of change that people accumulated since thousands of years.
for this second part, i am going to make literary suggestions. for the first part, i will discuss several psychotherapy techniques and schools as well as life coaching so that one can know what to expect and how to prepare.
How Pollyana affects personal change
May 9th, 2008 by OsmanHere is a crosspost and the content of another message I sent to the group personal change. It’s a crosspost because this is something I have written back in January, 2007 on another blog: You Have Every Reason To Feel Better.
I think the worst effect of the novel Pollyanna is the popular imagery of an optimistic person in people’s mind. This novel is so popular and so talked-upon that the character named Pollyanna has been exaggerated in her optimistic nature. We always make fun out of her optimism. Unfortunately, we tend to humiliate this optimism later on.
If you take something good and make so much fun out of it, it becomes the new bad thing. So, under peer pressure, we decide that optimism is not good to deal with life. Everybody looks like that they would accept us and agree with us when we tend to be pessimistic about life. Therefore many people try to win the race of being the first who criticize the other. It feels like when you are the first to criticize the other or simply yourself, then there is no room for others to criticize you.
The truth is that we don’t like to hear criticism, even the ones that people call constructive criticism. Once the name includes criticism, it signifies that somebody is going to have a say over our behavior. Of course, this is a wrong perception. However perception becomes reality.
In fact, most of the time, human being’s depression and anxiety is about living and being. Since you exist and most probably you are not going to die in the moment, you have every reason to feel better. Better than nothing.
Personal Change group on Facebook
May 7th, 2008 by OsmanI have created a group on personal change on Facebook. Here is the address of the group: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=10661521114
This group is going to be bilingiual, in Turkish and in English. So far, I have only made one announcement about two or three books and I made it in Turkish. I will start doing my announcements and send messages in English immediately after at least one person who doesn’t speak Turkish and can understand English joins the group.
I hope we will make a significant change.
I would like to get back on the scene but how?
January 17th, 2008 by OsmanFor the last week, I was thinking how to go about this blog. I am sure with the quality of my writing, I am sure about the quality of the opinion I have etc. That’s not the question.
The question is, the internet is too much trade oriented. I have set up a blog about alternative approaches to clinical psychology, depression etc. on the Psychology Blog. I have written a couple of dozens of blog posts there and I got immediate attention by key word advertisers. Sure that was commercial.
The attention that I got there was about something. This something was not the quality of my opinion. It was about the quality of the sector and search engine communication capability of my opinion.
When I go and look for the popular blogs on Technorati, things are still the same. I am jealous with people who made it possible to become famous with their opinion. One such blog might be Daily Kos. Another one might be Hot Air from Michelle Malkin (I don’t like her at all though). So, those blogs are political. There are also not political blogs like the Dooce. Dooce is a better example of what I would like to do just because it is not much about having or talking about something to trade.
Anyway, those are important examples. Blogging for having your voice heard is hard. I don’t feel the need to listen to everybody in the world. No one feels that need either. So, I have to create a difference. I should open up my world a little bit and transform it into words, phrases, photographs, maybe sounds too and publish that to the world’s interest.
Anyway, that was one short kind of a brainstorming. There are more to come I hope.
The role of action according to the secret - 2
October 7th, 2007 by OsmanLet me continue.
First, I would like to point out that this is not an advice about sitting at home and doing nothing. Instead, this is to discuss how action is irrelevant to what is told in the Secret.
The Secret, and it’s source, the Teachings of Abraham by Abraham & Hicks claims that to create a castle is as easy as to create a button.
This is not an arbitrary comparison. Law of attraction is here to tell us that this material world, this physical reality that we live in is in fact just a reality of our creation. In this creation, there isn’t any difference in terms of difficulty or complicatedness between creating a handful of sand and creating a galaxy because both are same in difficulty and complicatedness.
I, personally, can’t suggest you doing nothing, not acting and just thinking what you want to achieve or have or do or be. With my current standpoint, current addictions, current perception of reality, I cannot seem to do that.
I just try to tell you that action and law of attraction are not in harmony, they are just in conflict.
Law of attraction just promotes action in joy, which means you think of a red Ferrari and take it right away when it appears. So, it doesn’t tell you that you are going to have a brilliant business idea and you are going to work for that idea and then you are going to easily have the money to buy that Ferrari. Even this is not something encouraged by the law of attraction.
Again; this is not something that I am defending, advocating or promoting. I just tell you that using law of attraction doesn’t entail that you will easily work hard.
Therefore, it is tautology that you can achieve working hard by using law of attraction. By the rules of the law, that just means you attract the experience of working hard and the universe manifests it for you.
That was the brainstorming for the role of action according to the secret.
The role of action according to the secret - 1
August 23rd, 2007 by OsmanI see that the role of action when using the law of attraction is a little misunderstood and misguided.
Law of attraction is simple: thoughts become things.
If you know this and still talk about action that much, this just means that you are on the “personal development” bandwagon instead of “the secret” bandwagon.
In other words, that means you have understood nothing about the law of attraction and you are not using the secret.
This means you just use recent scientific developments in the area of cognitive sciences, only to struggle more efficiently and thus become more successful.
James Ray says in an interview:
For instance, there’s been a lot of teaching about visualizing in the last decade, so a lot of people have gotten pretty good at it. I can’t tell you how many people see me in The Secret and tell me “I’m sitting in my living room visualizing my new life every day.” Let me let you in on another secret… you sit around and visualize and they’ll come take your furniture away! While this person may be able to think and feel their visualization in spades they’re not taking any action. It’s not going to happen.
Another meaning of emphasizing action too much is that you are not after wealth. You just seek more money and different experiences.
So why this intellectual people put that much emphasis on action?
Having to take action and and bring success with that action is an experience. A nice experience that can make you feel really good. It is an experience that you can attract into your life via the law of attraction. Maybe you can feel that you are somebody important. Maybe it is the feeling that you are the boss, managing other people. Maybe this is what you understand from abundance and prosperity.
These are feelings and experiences that entertain some people so much that they choose to attract this scenario instead of using the secret for the sake of seemingly unexpected income.
People who claim that action is required think of the secret as a tool which enables them working hard and not getting tired of this work.
(to be continued)
Irrelevant and unnecessary introductions
August 22nd, 2007 by OsmanI believe that most of the introductions that are there, are irrelevant and unnecessary, regardless of whatever we are talking about.
Be it a book, a movie, a podcast, a news item, when people start reading what you have written, listening to you, or watching something that you put together, they usually seek information.
When you greet them with something different than the information you are going to provide, this decreases their energy of understanding.
I understand that there can be occasions in which you have to distract people from what they have in their mind and than reassemble their attention into what you have to say.
However, being in need of this is a domain of opposition. An opposition that ships your thinking as well as the mind of the audience with low energy.
Think about giving bad news. When you use techniques of prolonged beginnings, introduction music, animation before telling what you consider as bad news, that will not change the bad news. Neither will that change the would-be connection between the bad news and you.
I know that not every person is capable of understanding more than half of what is being told to them but this will not change according to your introduction either.
The most successful method of communication might be giving information directly, regardless of its possibility of creating danger, fear, anxiety, etc. Then you will be able to see the degree of understanding and you will also be able to react and manipulate.
This holds true for anything you will initiate through your whole life. When you are going to start a new business, the tendency is to start from one step behind the first step. In fact, every proffessional, successful entrepreneur starts a new business from the second step.
The sun does not prepare itself for its rise. Imitate the sun.
New age thoughts: Where to go from here?
August 13th, 2007 by OsmanI have always been interested in mystical stories, new age thoughts and teachings, the bleeding edge of science, etc.
After years of reading, thinking, talking about “what does it all mean”, nowadays I came with a conclusion on all things I have researched so far.
The movies “what the bleep do we know”, “the secret” and the books of Abraham’s teachings, some hands on, useful information on quantum physics are really helpful to sum up what you know and what to make out of what you know.
If I were to write down what I am feeling recently, and all the things those feelings suddenly brought to my life, I had to write a book!
But since this is a daily blog post, I will not going to make you drown in details. Three quotes from “the secret” may be successful on summarizing what I feel exactly at the moment, and there is only this moment; it is always now.
Learn to become still and take your attention away from what you don’t want, and place your attention on what you wish to experience.
When the voice and vision on the inside become more profound and clear than the opinions on the outside, then you have mastered your life.
You are not here to try to get the world to be just as you want it. You are here to create the world around you that you choose.
That’s what it all means.
Where teachers of the secret do wrong
August 10th, 2007 by OsmanI look for web sites of people who claim to understood the secret and teaching the secret. Most of them, or most popular ones also showed up in the movie “the secret”.
However, I see something that is not compatible with anybody who understood the secret.
Those web sites usually begin with a prejudice of opposition. An opposition that they think people will have when they hear the secret. While they try to eradicate all the doubt from people, they show the unawareness of creating the opposition while they think about it.
This is seemingly a wise marketing move where the seller tries to decrease the doubt in the buyers mind. But hey, we are talking about the law of attraction! While you focus on the opposition that people or potential buyers may have, you are creating and perpetuating this opposition.
What I tell here is not a counter argument to the secret or the law of attraction. This is not something I tell for the sake of good marketing. This is just a quick note to tell that if you keep your attention on that opposition that people may have then you are on the track of creating more opposition and perpetuating the opposition that already might be there.
Just my a couple of cents 
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